She can blog!

If I could figure out how to create a new blog I would just do that, then people might not notice that it took me almost two years to get back to this thing. And this is the only picture I could find on this computer with all three of us in it, see that's me in the bottom right. :-) Hey at least the picture is almost recent!

I find myself with a lot of time on my hands lately and instead of tending to my virtual farm, virtual mafia, vitual kingdom etc...etc... Maybe I can get something more constructive done, like blogging. lol. Good thing I have a boyfriend who can cook because when left alone I really just sit here in front of my computer. If it weren't for Danger dropping that ball in my lap I might never leave this laptop.

Realizing that I am making a huge jump here from my last entry I will try to get everyone caught up;

• the divorce was final, went to Vegas, my girlfriend got married...


• still living with mom and dad


• still hanging out with the same boy


• still living with mom and dad


• Duncan went to Kindergarten, it was about as bad as he thought it would be but he did do very well with learning to read and write and first grade is going even better


• still living with mom and dad


• Alex managed to graduate 6th grade and is off at Herman Middle School (Principal's list even)


• finally moved out of mom and dad's and this is where the real story begins.

I could never find an affordable place to rent that was in a part of San Jose I was willing to raise my kids in and since I had recently been spending a lot of time in Sonoma County and really liked the way people live up there and the cost of living was more in my price range I thought what the heck let's do it. So I found a job at Kaiser in Santa Rosa and found myself a house to rent that has two acres of land for a garden, chicken coop and really a whole lot more and I moved to Cloverdale.

Sounds great huh? It was pretty darn perfect except for the divorce part and the ex-husband and his parents! So a long story short the court systems won't let you move kids out of the county without orders and it takes more than one year to get those orders. I still don't have my kids with me and I drive to San Jose every weekend to see them, but I still miss them so much. The kids are living with Wayne's parents and still going to school in San Jose and I just met with the judge this week and the next appointment with him won't be until October!!!!! So I will have to wait even longer to get my kids back, but they will be with me for the majority of the summer and for that I am SUPER HAPPY!!!!!!! and excited to finally be able to hang out with my kids again.

Now if I can just figure out how to link this with Facebook, maybe I will remember to blog once in awhile, afterall my fabulous garden should be starting any day now.

Update for 2008

There may be worse bloggers out there, but I’m pretty sure I am the worst. I am slightly encouraged by the fact that it did not take me a whole year to add another post. Here goes the update:

The divorce is final, the kids are doing great, I am enjoying life and the dog still destroys very expensive items (mostly of mine!).

Okay just kidding, here are the details. As far as divorce goes, I don’t recommend it for anyone but every once in awhile you just wake up and decide you need to make a better life for yourself. I thought life would be hard without my husband, but turns out it got a lot easier. The divorce was final on June 24, 2008 and as timing would have it I flew to Vegas on June 26. It was for a bachelorette party, but we did our fair share celebrating divorce as well. I would tell you about Vegas but we all know what happens in Vegas and so you I don’t need to bore you with the details.

My kids are AWESOME. Alex had a small bit of trouble with school this year but he managed to pass the 5th grade and so it’s on the 6th for him. Alex is awesome and smart and fun and an all around great kid. Duncan will be starting kindergarten in the fall and he does not want to go. He has an excuse for everything, I told him they will spend a week just learning about dinosaurs and so he said to me, “I don’t know how to draw a dinosaur.” And when I brought up playing games with the other kids he said, “I don’t know how to play football.” Part of me wants to let him stay home and try again next year but the other part of me says it won’t be any better next year. His other excuse it that when he is old enough he will just build his own school, he is under the impression that you have to 8 years old to build things. He is so stinking cute, I just love him.

My life it going well, living with mom and dad still and hoping to be able to buy my own place soon so the boys and I can finally have our own place again. My new job is going well, even if it keeps me way too busy. The new boyfriend is even working out (most of the time anyway, afterall I am still me ;-)

Danger the dog continues to destroy expensive things, he does have good taste I guess. Lucky for him he’s cute.

I promise to add pictures soon. Take care and be well to all of you.

Moving on now

Living back home with mom and dad now, there are so many good reasons to be living with your parents again after 11 years, but they are overshadowed by all those reasons I couldn't wait to move out. I know the feelings are mutual from myself and my parents, not only have I destroyed their house with all the crap I thought I needed to keep with me and not put in storage but I brought two kids with me. Grandma and grandpa LOVE their grandkids, but living with them is another thing altogether. I am very grateful to have my parents around right now to help with this transition into single mom life, and any minute now I am going to figure out what to do about my future living arangements.

And now the house is sold. I think the saying goes, "Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it." I didn't realize that selling my house would make me feel so terrible. I guess part of it is accepting that my marriage is over and actually moving on with my life and the other part is crap, now I have a ton of stuff to do, including all of the really hard parts that I have been putting off like divorce papers and custody and packing. Well let's hope this is a quick year because I am hoping to be doing so much better next year.

The house is for sale

It's a sad day here as my house is officially for sale. It's still hard to say it without tears. It's been a long journey to this point and unfortunately it has to end this way. Alcoholism can and will destroy your life. It's such a hard thing to beat and too bad for my kids we just couldn't win.

Spring is time for something new. Right?

Well, I'm still waiting for my something new. I have been tending my garden which is very therapeutic and it is starting to grow, if I can only keep that dog from digging everything up. I have been a very bad blogger and I am trying to get better, it took me awhile to just login. I have had a terrible cold the last two days and I have been staring at my computer and pretending to work. But I promise to be a better blogger from here on out, if not just to get back into taking pictures and actually getting them off the memory stick. Check back soon, I promise to update again soon.

Monday blog

My first blog and I can't believe Kari is the one that inspired me. Well the boys and I are home baking some dessert and watching Deep Sea something on Discovery. Alex is a definite brainiac, his new favorite shows are Mythbusters, discovery channel specials and cooking shows. Maybe I'll have my handsome son cooking for me when I'm old and grey. Oh wait I do have grey hair and I'm not feeling too young lately. Thank goodness for Duncan who can cheer you up and simplify things. Duncan is such a funny guy he always makes me laugh. Have a great night it smells like dessert is almost ready.